THOUGHTS ABOUT SELF ESTEEM AND HOW TO BOOST YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEM OR SELF-WORTH.
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. Positive self-esteem is confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. It is consistently felt on the inside no matter what may happen or occur in the environment. For example, someone might call you a hurtful name and you might feel upset, but you do not take it as being true about yourself. (You are able to shake it off and go on with their life.)
A child that has positive self-esteem will usually work hard in school and be unafraid to take educational risks or do something new. If they should fail at a learning activity, they will not be discouraged; instead, they will take it as a learning opportunity and continue working to understand it or find someone that can help them. A child with positive self-esteem will also seek out positive relationships and interact with others in a healthy and appropriate manner.
Negative self-esteem is possessing little self-regard for yourself which causes one to take anything that is hurtful said to them as being true about who they are and will allow it to define them. They may be discouraged from reaching their potential if they allow a failure or a roadblock to stop them from picking themselves up and trying again. It will also effect relationships if they allow the other person to put them or their abilities down or bully or abuse or them. The child or person could also be that person that puts down other people or be a bully or even abusive.
Here are ways to boost your child’s self-esteem in life and at school:
The principal, school counselor or the school psychologist are also available to help devise a plan to help you help your child feel better raise their self-esteem.
Ann Richards, School Psychologist
Valerie Elwood, School Counselor
About Ann—She has worked in the Community Mental Health field as a Mental Health therapist for 14 years and as a School Psychologist for 17 Years. Her primary “helping work” has been with children and families and now in the schools.
About Valerie—She taught Elementary School for 10 years and was a Middle School Couselor for 4 years. Being a student advocate and supporting families has long been a passion of hers.
Studies about self-esteem and academic success that I have reviewed:
Results from most studies concerning the relationship between self-esteem and academic achievement suggests that high self-esteem is an important factor and strenghthen the prediction of academic achievement in students. (Relationship Between Self-Esteem and Academic Achievement,2010, Journal of Applied Science)
Self Esteem is one of the key factors in affecting an individual academic performance. (Relationship between Self Esteem and Academic Achievement, 2010)
Decades of research also support the notion that believing in your ability to do something enhances your ability to do it. “Confidence is ones belief in ones own ability. Studies also suggest that students with high academic confidence are better at searching for new solutions and more persistent on difficult tasks, whereas people with low academic confidence give up more easily when dealing with difficult tasks and cannot concentrate on tasks as well. (Article on self esteem and self confidence by Saga Briggs 7/2014)